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We would like to suggest the following exercise that will help your emotional status. The theme of this next exercise is "practice makes perfect".

Practice also takes away anxiety. The moment you take away anxiety, you take away 'the quirks'.

Exercise: Eliminate Male Social Anxiety Around Women & Dramatically Increase Confidence in Your Voice & Actions

For the next 2 - 4 weeks, go to as many shopping malls as you can...

Don't worry about buying anything - You're not there to buy - You're there to prctice how to effectively communicate.

Go from store to store, asking the customer service / sales people about particular items. Now, these are people that are generally programmed to be outgoing & confident, and you should make it a goal to talk in a tone of voice that is a notch or two above their tone of voice. Tell yourself that you're going to charm them by holding strong eye contact, speaking in an outgoing voice, and being nice at the same time.

All the while, you're going to watch them for social anxiety, instead of watching yourself. Before you know it you'll notice a pattern...

You're going to probably be uncomfortable at first, but after talking to 10 sales people in 10 different stores within only one hour's time, you're going to start to become comfortable with it.

After a few days time of going to stores and shopping malls and consistently communicating with sales people, it will start to feel extremely natural, and you'll be laughing at just how ridiculously easy it is to speak in an outgoing voice and hold strong eye contact, both while being nice.

You will no longer notice you're own quirks (because they'll have disappeared), and you'll be noticing other people's quirks more and more.

Keep in mind that speaking in a clear outgoing voice while holding strong eye contact (all the while being "nice") is the basic formula for charming anyone. Of course make sure you're highly presentable... "dressing for success"... and you'll soon have the confidence to approach the woman in your sites, and in the end the "charm" to easily attract her.

You won't even remember the word "quirks". It will never come to mind.

Understanding the quirks isn't a complicated process. What's complicated is trying to go through life with the quirks.

It doesn't have to be this way. Make it a goal to conquer the quirks. It's a simple process, but it does take a little time and effort on your part to make it happen.

You're going to have to become so conditioned with women that you don't even notice them anymore, so to speak. There's really no other way around it. You might consider a short cut with self hypnotism, but all that really is mental conditioning through personal meditation... Closing your eyes and for a few minutes of every day, picturing yourself in encounters with attractive women, and feeling and saying things to her (in your mind) with total ease and no facial quirks... You picture yourself standing and talking with complete 100% confidence... You can feel it. You breath it.

Get the picture?

Now if you practice repeatedly in real life, and also spend a few minutes of every day mentally conditioning yourself, you can go far. But you have to do it. Try it for a few weeks. It's a sure bet that you're going to surprise yourself.

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